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1 Approach Per Day Challenge
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(11-19-2019, 08:25 PM)D-503 Wrote:
(11-19-2019, 07:38 PM)SteveJabba Wrote:
(11-19-2019, 07:18 PM)D-503 Wrote: Going well so far. 7 approaches in 5 days. Made myself an excel spreadsheet called "??????? ??????????? ?? ???? ??? ?????????". Every day I hit the street happy that later I can sign in one extra point of approach anxiety and failure. And I'm starting to love it.

Btw, it's November in Ireland, if I can pull it off here somehow weather is absolutely no excuse.
Good man, keep it up!! Not so bad when you get a bit of momentum going.  

These are basic skills as a man that we all need.

Thanks, Steve!
Btw, the forum did not recognize the strange font I was using. The name of my glorious spreadsheet is "Squalid Spreadsheet of Evil and Depravity". +1 today.
A mere peculiarity of the forum my friend.  That's what makes posting copious amounts of content so much fun!
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#17
I have the sense that some of you are getting frustrated.  I think a big part of success with this is to not beat yourself up, whilst still holding yourself accountable.  You know in your heart if you're being a faggot .

This week has had all sorts of distractions, so I intend to match last week by doing at least 5 approaches over this weekend.   With the momentum I expect a lot of success so looking forward to it!

I know, I know.  It's getting colder.  Well, that's a challenge isn't it?  I did a nice video in Secret Society about Coffee Shop, Bar and shopping centre "game".  One of the big challenges is keeping yourself from getting bored, but when you spent a few years working on an IT helpdesk you come up with all sorts of inventive ways to do that.  Also in Secret Society.

I'll be going to the local mall(s), coffee shops and possibly bar(s) (the latter is unlikely.   I don't wanna drink.  Also there are some exercise classes open which I am keeping a close eye on for next week once belly has no hint of overhang!!

Good luck and don't get disheartened.  Pick yourself up and go back at it.
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I'd like to add a few remarks about this. This inspires me in the last few days, might help someone else:

1. It's difficult

You are there out alone, looking at the abyss that contains all of your insecurities, fears, frustrations and loneliness and the girl you're looking at is a mirror of your SMV. This is extremely difficult. Most men will never have the courage to do something like this in their entire lives. Only now in the age of 36 I am perfectly confident that only a small percentage of men are making an effort. Be one of them. 

2. It's training your hindbrain

Whoever tells you that they are not afraid of a physical conflict is either a liar or a psychopath. More likely a liar. When you go into boxing sparring the things that bother you are the shame in front of your peers for getting your ass kicked, pain from the blows and fear of a serious injury - all rational fears and do not trust anyone who tells you they are not afraid of getting their ass kicked from someone with more skill. The thing you can do to is to slowly but steady go through sparring sessions and train your hindbrain to act in a less of a panic-mode, letting you see your opponent's moves and moving your legs in a way you move them while you're shadowboxing. Everyone looks like a scared monkey when entering the sparring for the first couple of times, and everyone looks like a scared monkey entering the world of cold approach pickup. This is a part of the process. Accept it. 

3. System beat goals

As Scott Adams says, losers have goals, winners have a strategy. Systems beat goals. If your goal is to get one job or one woman, you may likely find out that: 1) you are not getting that job/woman and you are disappointed; 2) you get that job/woman and it doesn't give you the happiness you were looking for - what now? It's much more valuable to have the skill to approach women and the skill to do job interviews with confidence than getting that one job. I honestly believe that this thing with approaching strange women on the street is more important than 99% of stuff I learn at my work.

Honestly, I'm still shit at daygame, but one thing I managed to do right lately is train my brain to accept approaching women as a part of a daily routine. Like taking a shower - if I don't take one, I just feel weird.
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(11-23-2019, 11:33 AM)D-503 Wrote: I'd like to add a few remarks about this. This inspires me in the last few days, might help someone else:

1. It's difficult

You are there out alone, looking at the abyss that contains all of your insecurities, fears, frustrations and loneliness and the girl you're looking at is a mirror of your SMV. This is extremely difficult. Most men will never have the courage to do something like this in their entire lives. Only now in the age of 36 I am perfectly confident that only a small percentage of men are making an effort. Be one of them. 

2. It's training your hindbrain

Whoever tells you that they are not afraid of a physical conflict is either a liar or a psychopath. More likely a liar. When you go into boxing sparring the things that bother you are the shame in front of your peers for getting your ass kicked, pain from the blows and fear of a serious injury - all rational fears and do not trust anyone who tells you they are not afraid of getting their ass kicked from someone with more skill. The thing you can do to is to slowly but steady go through sparring sessions and train your hindbrain to act in a less of a panic-mode, letting you see your opponent's moves and moving your legs in a way you move them while you're shadowboxing. Everyone looks like a scared monkey when entering the sparring for the first couple of times, and everyone looks like a scared monkey entering the world of cold approach pickup. This is a part of the process. Accept it. 

3. System beat goals

As Scott Adams says, losers have goals, winners have a strategy. Systems beat goals. If your goal is to get one job or one woman, you may likely find out that: 1) you are not getting that job/woman and you are disappointed; 2) you get that job/woman and it doesn't give you the happiness you were looking for - what now? It's much more valuable to have the skill to approach women and the skill to do job interviews with confidence than getting that one job. I honestly believe that this thing with approaching strange women on the street is more important than 99% of stuff I learn at my work.

Honestly, I'm still shit at daygame, but one thing I managed to do right lately is train my brain to accept approaching women as a part of a daily routine. Like taking a shower - if I don't take one, I just feel weird.
Useful post man. Thanks
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4. Weaseling out

Avoidance Weasel never sleeps. These are just a couple of things that came to mind while on a walk today (by no means the whole list of weasels cunning tactics):

- my jeans look stupid with these boots, might be better to go out when I buy some new clothes - weasel tries to use lack of self confidence to get his way and stop you from approaching
- all these chicks are walking with their mothers, would be horrible if I'd try picking up one of them when her mother's around - weasel tries to scare you to quit
- need to rest from the hunt, let's walk in a shop [looks at clothes he does not need for half an hour] - weasel keeps you entertained so you don't approach
- all sorts of red pill theories start creeping in - weasel uses your intellect to screw you over
- she's walking too fast/has earphones on/too posh or too hot for you - weasel uses standard chode-hieararcy of modern society to push you into a loser frame of mind so you can stop approaching
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#21
Back on it again after a few days off after birthday. 2 girls, both married. A couple of highlights you guys might find useful (and amusing).

She said she was married and showed me the ring. I said "fuck all that, sell that ring and let's go to Thailand together".

I mentioned I spoke to another girl who was also married and said "Why are you all married, unless I've abruptly become really ugly" (Got a laugh).

Another - have a bit of banter then say "now are you SURE you are married". It's all lighthearted, fun and in good spirit...It makes for an extremely positive interaction and it makes YOU feel good too. Remember self amusement.
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#22
Blessed be you lads who put a smile on my face. The good reading has got my gears twirling in high gear; I may enter the fray in the coming days. Well done
-Bendrix
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#23
Been sick last week and lacking the will to live, not to speak of approaching. Had a few beers on a Saturday night in England, still a bit sick, very very lousy nightgame from my side. Approached about 3 girls, but put 0 in my stats (alcohol induced, doesn't count).

So today there was no more excuse, I was healthy, handsome and on it.

10 minutes walking....20 minutes walking... The weasel was strong. 

"Too young!"
"Walks too fast!"
"Her ass is too flat!"
"Why was Milosevic trialed on the Hague tribunal?"
"Oh look I should get something for my dad for Christmas."
"Too posh!"

Took me an hour and a half to get through the AA and weaseling, then just simply a part of my brain went to autopilot and stopped a pretty cute chick. Has a boyfriend, blew me off, but it was not actually an unpleasant experience.

Gents, I hope your stats are doing better than mine.... have to go on a serious hunt on Saturday to make up for it!
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#24
This is what its all about. Its not fucking easy even when you have got connected all the dots...

It look so easy and simple only on that banned YT channels...

I have 3 numbers after weekend but i think it will be flakes... we will se

One is a Greek, very coll looking.

But I’m getting that momentum slowly.
On saturday night ive got huge response from what i call „Echelon”.
3 exes and 4 other girls stared to texting me almost simutlanusly...

Thats when i know im on a good track.

Keep on moving guys.!
constant is change...
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