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Daygame Approach Log
#46
Petite English girl dressed all in black leather, dark hair with purple highlights. Decided yesterday that I should just commit to approaches from a distance, so that's what I did here. She was pretty cute, but as I got closer turned out to have a few face piercings which turned me off a lot. Followed through anyway rather than aborting completely and just turned it into a hit and run compliment, which she loved and pumped up my vibe a bit afterwords. Definitely need to make this my default behaviour, if she got my attention for any reason, then just open and adjust what I say accordingly.

Sandy haired English girl with big furry black coat and black and white polka dot skirt. Teased her on being indecisive for dressing summery from the waist down and wintery from the waist up. Explained she was going to work and for some reason I took that to mean she had to go, when in retrospect she was just responding to the tease and didn't look in a particular hurry to leave. Should have kept the conversation going with a job assumption.

So, didn't manage any opens from behind, as was the plan. Both approaches, when I saw the girls I just thought "if I walk past with the intention of turning and opening from behind, I don't trust myself to not just keep walking" so I did my usual front open both times. I can usually summon up enough mental willpower in the moment to force myself to change direction slightly and raise my hand to give her a stop sign, but walking past, turning around, then chasing is a whole lot more effort. On the plus side, front stops mentally suddenly seem a lot easier to do. Maybe that's what I should do in future, set myself goals 2 steps ahead of where I am, then when I fail I'm still 1 step forward, and what I'm struggling with now will suddenly seem easy. Stupid brain, why can't it just work with me rather than thinking so much Big Grin
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#47
Are you closing on any numbers or dates? Are you focusing on closing? Seems like you are mostly focused on opening girls. I have done 8 approaches and have 2 nrs and a potential date. Could you maybe keep aggregate stats in the first post so we can track them?
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#48
English brunette with big blue turtleneck. Just a quick hit and run at the end of the session so I could say I didn't finish the session without speaking to anyone at all. Pretty average girl, and wasn't really considering approaching, but she gave me a huge smile as we got closer which bumped her up a few points and over the threshold to "cute". As expected from such a big IOI, she loved the compliment and seemed pretty open to conversation, but I didn't have much time or motivation to chat with her. Still, a lesson to be learnt here, something to remember the next time I see a girl with RBF who I'm not sure is attractive enough. Just open and once she's smiling she'll look far more appealing.

Cut my own throat today by deciding to take a later lunch to see if approaching when people weren't dashing about grabbing food made things any easier. It didn't, just meant there was next to no targets at all. The cold didn't help much either. Need to add "learn to approach in shops" to my very long to-do list.

(02-07-2020, 04:22 PM)Kleibniz ***VIP User*** Wrote: Are you closing on any numbers or dates? Are you focusing on closing? Seems like you are mostly focused on opening girls. I have done 8 approaches and have 2 nrs and a potential date.

I'm just concentrating on opening at the minute, my AA is still crazy. If I happen to get into a longer conversation then I'll try and close, but very rarely get that far. She either leaves fairly quickly after the compliment/tease, or I blow myself out due to nerves or lack of motivation if the girl turns out to not to be that hot.
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#49
I just cannot trust my AA and I noticed it tells me girls don’t like me even when they do...
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#50
(02-07-2020, 09:25 PM)Kleibniz ***VIP User*** Wrote: I just cannot trust my AA and I noticed it tells me girls don’t like me even when they do...

Yeah, mindset/frame is huge. The exact same smile can be an obvious IOI when you're feeling good, or a bitchy sneer when you're not.
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#51
Latino looking brunette. Very poor English. Managed to eventually get across that I though she looked nice then ejected after she thanked me. Too much hard work with the language barrier.

English brunette with bright yellow coat. Turned out to be the same girl I opened on Friday. Going out to same places at the same time in a smaller city, it was always going to happen eventually. She just smiled and said she was in a rush. I felt very awkward and cringy afterwards as I was walking away. It's no big deal really, but it felt it for some reason. Guess that's where I am at the minute, still a ton of inner game work to do.

Geez, I thought the weather last week was bad. Full on storm today. Someone out there really likes making daygame as difficult as possible for me  Dodgy  Still, two bad approaches is better than nothing I suppose. Would have been easy just to write off the day and use the crappy conditions as an excuse. So kind of a win, I think  Confused
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#52
That's it, winter has finally broken me. Snow now on top of everything else. I just thought "fuck it, I just can't deal with this shit anymore". Went out, did a quick hit and run on the first non-fat, non-old person I saw, then went home. Had to repeat the compliment four times to be heard over the wind. Poor girl, by the end all my frustrations had bubbled to the surface and I was pretty much yelling at her. "I said! You look! Fucking nice! Oh, for fucks sake, never mind..."

Day four of my cut and I think the low calories are kicking in, making me extra irritable. Have to remember this journey is going to be a long one, but every day I don't feel like I'm making progress I feel really frustrated. Being in my late 30s, it's always in the back of my mind that every day that passes is another day past my prime and that things are going to get harder and harder. Bullshit limiting belief I know, but it's a hard one to shake and it's putting extra unneeded pressure on me, like I'm constantly working under a ticking clock. Bleh. Roll on summertime Big Grin
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#53
Nothing today. Pathetic. Just walked around for 90 minutes feeling sorry for myself, thinking "who's going to want to talk to a wind swept mess like me". Couldn't even look anyone in the eye because my eyes were watering so much from the cold wind. I just don't understand why this is so hard. Of all the approaches I've done, I've had next to no bad reactions, it's pretty much all been positive reference experiences. So why isn't it getting any easier? Feel like just giving up and maybe trying again in the summer.
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#54
I think it gets easier once you get results. For me each number close gives me a positive boost that lasts few days. I haven't managed a date yet, I guess dates would give you even more.
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#55
(02-13-2020, 06:41 AM)Kleibniz ***VIP User*** Wrote: I think it gets easier once you get results. For me each number close gives me a positive boost that lasts few days. I haven't managed a date yet, I guess dates would give you even more.

Yeah, I know, I've written myself a couple of times about how all it takes is one good approach to make you feel great. It's just the shitty weather's got me down in general recently, feels like the world's conspiring against me to make things as hard as possible. Got it in my head that I have to go out every day or I'm weaseling, when in fact going out just to bang my head against a wall is just making me miserable. I just want to put the work in and get over this early awkward learning stage as quickly as possible, and not being able to because of things out of my control is pissing me off. It's like coming up with a new gym routine, being super pumped to get started, then finding the gym's shut for repairs for the next 2 months. Pain in the arse.
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#56
Nope, completely lost momentum now. Couldn't even ask for directions. I'm done.

More shitty storm conditions forecast over the weekend and early next week, so probably a good time to take a step back and take a complete break from anything game related. Reset and start over from square one later.
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