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The One
#1
I generally date 3-4 women at a time. This keeps things fresh and each personality type accentuates something in me differently. I have noticed I always have an outside woman who I dont approach with whom I idealize. 

I haven't understood the reason for this, but in the past 10 years or so, I've noticed the pattern of dating multiple women and having another that I almost pedestalize as a marker for the women im with. Does anyone have any thoughts of the purpose or reason I do this?
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#2
Do you see the guys she is picking? Do you comepare them to yourself?
Well i know that in my case is that im not gonna stand in the same line. Some of my mates are saing this is beta move...but im seeing it like she is my sigma sister...

Thank you Sigi for replying me.. Now i know that this is totaly fine, and such an experience exist in nature. I was a bit confused about what is hapening.
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#3
Tigero - I have seen one of the guys, but he wasnt necessarily a good comparison. Super religious, which I took for her looking for a spiritual ideal or guidance.

I dont compare myself to other guys, anyway. At least not in a negative way. Everyone thinks less of themselves then we should, so that's my secret weapon. I just assume she thinks less of herself than I do, and she thinks more of me than I do. And then I act like it.

One other thing, is these types of platonic relationships with highly attractive women, I expect, will cause a long-term increase in SMV.
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#4
In my young romantic and naive days (read: AFC) I always pedestalized women. That has reduced drastically with years and experience, however I must say that occasionally I am struck with an unbearable case of The One.

The last one was a lovely right wing girl, very elegant, well raised and charming, yet could put on a Motorhead T shirt, deadlift serious weights and then outdrink guys at the bar. That strange combination of an aristocratic lady and a drunken pirate confused me much more than some "bland" hot chick do. What was interesting is that she liked me and i managed to fuck it up completely with fear and lack of self confidence.

I'd say it's a combination of two things that lead me that that particular One, but also makes me fantasize about some others:

1. When a woman is not an bland doll and has something more to offer, one can easily forget that it's a woman he's dealing with and that the same laws of nature and game principles apply. This creates something I'd call "artificial unpredictability".
2. A woman of quality can be a legitimate ticket out of a player lifestyle (never out of game, let's be clear about that). Avoidance Weasel knows this and he uses and ideal picture of the woman to draw one away from chasing.
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#5
D-503 - good points. I wonder if keeping One out of reach and pedestalized is actually healthy? Like keeping that youthful pedestalization helps to not put other women on a pedestal?
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#6
Good point D-503. My Redhead Hanna is something like that, she can easily beet guys....
But for me is like always remembering that she is a woman... and if I make a wrong move I'll be fucked in some way. And this is one of the things that keep me going to my better version. Every day.
When you make a pact with a Witch you're going to benefit and you're going to regret it. Do it conciuosly!
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(01-14-2020, 02:11 AM)Siggy Light Wrote: D-503 - good points. I wonder if keeping One out of reach and pedestalized is actually healthy? Like keeping that youthful pedestalization helps to not put other women on a pedestal?


Roughly speaking, I’d say that any type of oneitis is unhealthy. However, unhealthy might be useful.
 
A long time ago I had this chick I thought of as the pinnacle of the female gender and the human race, and my talking about it made another girl so incredibly jealous that she fell for me completely. So it worked in a way - but I wouldn’t suggest it as a course of action.
 
I am still occasionally dealing with this problem, and it would be horribly dishonest for me to say that I have some sort of a working long term solution, but one thing that helps me is having a Mission. The Mission is more important than anything, much more important than any pussy on this Earth. It puts things into perspective and drags an idle mind from thinking about romantic bullshit to thinking about The Mission.
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I am still occasionally dealing with this problem, and it would be horribly dishonest for me to say that I have some sort of a working long term solution, but one thing that helps me is having a Mission. The Mission is more important than anything, much more important than any pussy on this Earth. It puts things into perspective and drags an idle mind from thinking about romantic bullshit to thinking about The Mission.
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Good post. I agree having The Mission is crucial to not getting all wackerjobbed over some idealized chick. It brings everything back to some semblance of order.
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